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Grounded Wisdom for the Modern Soul
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Happiness Wheel
by Lizzie Berry
@energy.by.lizzie
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Introduction
The happiness wheel is a classic self assessment tool that easily lays out how you feel about different aspects of your life as well as shows you what areas might need more attention. Ideally, of course they would all be at a 10, but most people will find better life fulfillment if all of them are at relatively the same number. Your soul and life will feel better balanced when your wheel is balanced. For example; If your career is an 8, your abundance is and 8 but your friends are a 2, even though you have career goals that would be easy to accomplish and you would feel happy about it, putting some effort into increasing your social enjoyment and connection will do a far better job at making you feel balanced and fulfilled(in turn happier) than achieving that next raise.
If you are doing this practice as directed by one of my courses, this is intended to keep with your homework so that if you feel lost on a topic to explore, you now have a nice little chart showing you what areas of your life you would like to improve! I know it seems logical that taking actions or making changes in life is what will improve your circumstances the most. It is true it will help, however, simply letting go of stored emotions and limiting beliefs can drastically change the level of happiness you experience in life, even if your circumstances haven’t changed yet. As well as (if needed) help you understand where you would like to go next, or even make where you want to go feel more achievable.
Listed below is an example of how you might decide which number you are at in each section. On the next page you can fill out your happiness wheel, and quick notes about your experience on the same page OR a more extended option for each section. Of course, you can also free write on each topic describing where you feel like you are, what goals you have, what you wish you could change.
1-Feels like this area of your life will never be where you want it. Almost like it’s not worth the effort.
2-Feels like things kind of suck, but you aren’t really sure how, or where to start to
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improve it.
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3-Feels like you have a lot of ideas, but there is so much to do.
4-Feels like if you stay with your current plan, you will feel ok soon.
5-Feels like this area of life is ok. If it stayed like this for an extended period of time, that would be ok.
6-Feels like things are acceptable, but you aren’t yet sure what to do to make it better.
7-Things are pretty good, but there is so much more you want to and can do to make it even better.
8-Everything is basically perfect, but there could be a few minor improvements. 9-Feels like if you stay on your current plan, everything will be PERFECT soon. 10-Feels like you couldn’t be happier in this area of life. Everything is EXACTLY as you want it.
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Topic Descriptions
Abundance
What you earn, your given, you find. This is your luck and your general ability to rely on your ability to do what you need to do, when you need to do it. Family
This would refer to your immediate family that lives in your home and any other family member you consider yourself close with. This does not have to be blood. You decide who is family.
Friends
This references people in your life that you see and connect with often, but are not part of your close family. Coworkers, friends, neighbors.
Romantic
Your current partner, your dating experience or even your comfortability with being on your own.
Home
The vibe and cleanliness of your;home, office and transportation system. Do you enjoy spending time in them? Do they operate well?
Physical
This is your physical HEALTH. Your nutrition, your level of movement. Your water and sleep consumption.
Mental
Your mental health. How enjoyable or terrifying is it to live in your head. Emotional
Your emotional health. Are you stressed or relaxed right now? Do you handle stress well when it comes up? Are there a couple or quite a few repeating emotions you are experiencing right now you wish you weren’t?
Spiritual
Your spiritual health. This is your relationship with your authentic self/soul. As well as any other spiritual or religious connection.
Enjoyment
The fun you have. Can be hobbies and other activities, but mainly this is to document how much/often you experience JOY in your day to day life. Self Worth
Do you think you are valuable? Do you think others find you valuable? Career
This is about whatever you do for money. Your job, Your business, Your money making hobbies. This is not about how much money you do, but your level of satisfaction with the work you do in order to achieve the money that you do. ?
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Dream Self
How to Dream Your way to
Emotional Understanding
by Lizzie Berry
@energy.by.lizzie
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Introduction
The best hack to find where your limits are is to intentionally spark an emotional reaction in a safe place with time to process what the emotional reaction is indicating in your energy and auto feed back loops. Many of the practices in this course is based around this concept. This document is about going a bit deeper into what kind of experiences you would like to align with moving forward in life.
When you work through your triggers from the perspective of acknowledging the problem and snapping your fingers with an instant fix(Affirmation document), this illuminates where your blocks that are stopping you from seeing your next step(s) are. Writing through the perspective of your “dream self” already being real, you shine the light on the blocks that prevent you from understanding and embodying your true potential and the limits you’ve created around what the world will allow you to do.
Aligning with your highest potential is a fluctuating balance between understanding the next step(and having the audacity to take it) and surrendering to the idea that you can take that staircase as high as you want to(but you never actually have to move if you don't want to).
As you work from the perspective of your dream self(perceived potential self), pay close attention to how you feel during the process. Do you feel excited about all the things to come? Scared of all the things to come? Doubtful this practice can help you? Doubtful your capable of achieving your dreams? It is helpful to note for yourself whether you are comfortable and currently capable of 10 minutes of beautiful thoughts, opportunities and experiences or not. How big are you willing to dream?
This is less about specifics on what you will see, so much as how it will make you feel. You can write about what exactly you would like to do for a way of your main income as your dream self. but that section is more about documenting what you hope to gain from it. Yes obviously money, but do you like to socialize with people at work? a close community? meeting new people all the time? do you prefer to work alone but have a community you can turn to when you need? or just have complete solo freedom. Do you want to learn a lot or be inspired regularly? Sometimes your ideas on exactly what your dream life looks like will vary as life changes and you grow and change. It can be fun to document what you think it would look like and come back to it as see what changes as your understanding of yourself and awareness of your potential expands.
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Journal prompts should be used just as that a prompt. You don't have to follow it exactly and you do not have to write an entire novel on each topic(but you can as long as you don't burn yourself out). if you don't have much to say about it... then you don't have much to say. It may just not be the moment to explore it, or you can
find curiosity in the fact that you have little to no thoughts on this topic, why do you think that is? When you read a prompt, write the first things that come to mind. a person, a story. an emotion. an idea. an opinion about the world, a belief about yourself. You can even let yourself get off topic if that is where your thoughts go.
Under each topic, I ask a few questions to help visualize what this area of your life might look like. When you writ about the topic I want you to write about it as if it were true. Whether your dream self is journaling about life or your getting asked these questions while getting to know someone over coffee or maybe your writing your autobiography. Whatever works best for you.
Whatever you think is possible I want you to go ahead and double it. If you do this practice correctly, you will have written your dream life so perfectly, that a part of you argues with yourself, or it might even feel embarrassing to write it out. Were going for imposter syndrome level delusion in this practice. If you jumped 5 years into the future to find that you had accomplished everything you think you could in five years.... what would THAT version of yourself aspire to be and experience?
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Dream Self Reference Card
Dream Morning:
Write about how your bed feels, and the mood your in when your feet touch the ground. What do you eat for breakfast? Do you take your time, or do you enjoy your coffee/tea slowly? Is it different than your current morning?
Passion
What fuels you in your dream life? Where do you spend most of your time and energy? Career, family, a hobby, exploring?
Dream Career
Does your carrer fund your passion, or does your passion fuel your career? What do you gain out of your career as your dream self. A comfortable amount of money? An abundant amount of money? More than just money? Social community? Educational opportunities? Doing something you enjoy?
Dream family
What role does family play in your life? A main part of the day? Is your family in a stage where its mostly in the evenings? How do you guys spend time connecting? Family dinners? Vacations? Family Study?
Social circles
What role does social circles play in your life?Does your dream self have a close knit group of friends you see everyday? Sunday brunch? Just the occaisonal night out? Or is your social circle more about your immedient and/or extended family? You dont neccessarily have to list specific people, so much as what aspects of self are fulfilled through your connection to other people. Intellectual conversations? Someone to relax with? Someone to help us grow? Someone who tolerates us on every level?
Dream home
Is it full of empty spaces andnan open concept or do you have useful items and collections all around? How is the decor? Colorful? Inviting? Easy to clean? Do you have a room dedicated as an office or a gym? Do you have space to work from home? Do you have a lovely morning nook you spend time in? or an asthetic place for your books? Dont forget to add some details about the feel of whereever you do have work space.
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Dream Style
Pretty self explanatory. How would you dress? How would you wear your hair both daily and when you were dressing up. Would you have any new tattoos? Would you have had any of your tattoos removed?
Grocery Cart
the nutritional, the treats, the splurges or lack there of. hygeine and home products
Dream Hobbies
Would you dream you learn anything new? Would you take classes or do things at home? Would you create things? Or explore places? Would you want to try new things or perfect something you already love? Would you spend a lot of time doing this/these activities or would it be more of just a fun thing on the side?
Dream Daily Routine
Get specific with this one. How would you spend your mornings? Would you spend a lot of your day preparing healthy meals, working on your business, relaxing, getting healthy?
Peoples Perception of Dream Me
How would people describe the version of yourself that you “wish” you were? Dependable? Funny? Smart? Successful? Beautiful? Determined?
Dream Self Coping Skills
They dont have to be addictions, but everyone has coping skills. In fact many belief addiction comes from a lack of coping skills. What makes the dream you calm down when you get wound up? or help bring you up to a baseline when you feel down? What does the dream version of you do to stay mentally healthy?
How does dream self wind own and relax at the end of the day? Your bedtime routine? Does the dream you watch a movie at the end of the night with your family? Go on a nice jog alone? Is this when you break out your hobbies? Do you do energy work on yourself? Read a book?
Dream transportation
Is it a car? Is this car aimed at luxary or utility? What kind of music do you play while you drive? Do you often role the windows down? What kind of car freshener would you have? Would you rather be able to walk everywhere or ride your bike?
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Comparison
Understanding where you are vs where you want to be allows you a broader glimpse as to what may be holding you back. At the very least it gives you a starting point for questions to ask yourself.
Along with the more creative prompts written below, I encourage you to also journal about some of the following questions and ANY thoughts that come up when answering them:
Why is your dream life not your reality?
What do you need to have or be, or who do you need to know?
Maybe it was obvious your dream self had different habits and experiences through out their day, but WHY are those not your current habits and even more importantly WHY do you think those specific habits belong in your dream world? What role would they play/What do they have to offer you?
Why is your dream career perfect for your dream life?
Why did you pick the house you did?
What was different between that house and your current? Was the furniture nicer? Was it cleaner? More organized? Bigger? Was the magical part because you owned it? Was it about the location? What does this house offer you that your current house doesn't?
Side by Side.
Current job--Dream job
Current daily life activities-Dream daily life activities
ect.
Is there ANYTHING you actually could do right now to put you closer to your goal? You don't have to commit to doing anything, but is there anything you COULD do?t
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Journal Prompts Misc.
If a genie could come in and gave you 3 wishes, what 3 wishes would help you achieve your dream reality? Money(how much would it take?), more time(what would you do with this time?), advance your skills(what level do you think you need to be at?)?
If that genie came back today and offered you 3 wishes specific to what you would let go of now that the last 3 wishes were granted, what is the first to go? Anything that would no longer would serve a purpose if the last three wishes were granted? Is it a person? Your job? The state you live in? Your fear to move forward? Your depression? A fear of something?
Coming back to your current reality and away from the magical land of genies being real, If you had the money, time and space, what could you do in 1 month to change your experience in life? Would you finish writing that book you've been thinking about? Would you deep clean and de-clutter your house from top to bottom? Would you go out and make new friends? Would you start painting again? Would you just sleep?
Free write. What are you thoughts on this practice so far this week? Your experience journaling? What have you learned about yourself that you were most surprised about? What have you learned about your perspective? Has anything changed in your thought process or life since we starting this practice? Do you feel differently about your relationship to journaling? Do you feel different about your relationship with yourself? Is there any shifts youve experienced so far in your thought process or baseline emotions for the day? If you could change one event in the past, what would it be? What would that do for you? For others. What did the event you want to change make you feel? How did it affect your life? Why is that what you would choose to change? If you could guarantee one thing about your future what would it be? A certain accomplishment? A guarantee that something will never happen again? A guarantee for love? Why is that the most important? What would that give you? Did anyone pop in my head while doing this to tell me I was being ridiculous or I didnt deserve it?
What did i realize i could dream bigger about?
Emotions that came up about each topic.
What felt impossible?
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POV Journal prompts
pov Decluttering
What are we doing with it? Are we having a garage sale, donating it, giving it away online, burning it in a bonfire? Look around your house right now. If all of your dreams came true, what would you get rid of? How would it feel?
pov dream self birthday
Its your birthday! How does the dream self celebrate? A week vacation? A night out with friends? A romantic night in? Are we alone assessing our years accomplishments?
pov dream self vacation
A weekend camping trip or 6 months in Europe? What is your dream self planning for this years vacation? Are we going with friends? Family? Are we learning to scuba dive, or relaxing in the hotel hot tub? What are we eating? Are we sleeping in?
pov dream self gets sick
Do we have amazing insurance and a doctor that takes great care of us and never makes us wait? Do we go the homeopathic route and have a Holistic doctor? Do we heal ourselves from our knowldege of herbs and minerals? Do you catch up on emails, read a new book, watch a moive marathon?
Dream self on a Date
Is this a romantic date? A friend date? A blind date? Where would you go? What would you do? Would it be on the weekend? Did you pick the activities or were they a suprise?
POV Dream Self at Christmas
Is the family coming to us? Us to them? Are we vacationing alone? Staying home and relaxing? Are we buying a lot of presents for people? Donating to charity? Do we decorate? Just a little or did a christmas store throw up in your house? Is the whole month caroling and baking cookies? is it just a couple day occasion?
POV Dream Self Dreams
Alright you ready? What would your dream self start to plan for their future? What goals would you now be working on? What would your ideal dream self.... wish they had? Wish they could be? Do you remember when you doubled what you thought was possible? What would you double again if you could?
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Journal Prompts: Embodying Gratitude & Self-Worth Through Care
These prompts are designed to help you explore your emotional responses to daily care tasks and shift any internal narratives about unworthiness, resentment, or overwhelm.
Take your time. Don’t rush. Let whatever comes up be seen and felt. The next practice refers back to this one, so don’t worry if you aren’t yet sure what to do with the energy that comes up from these prompts.
Reflecting on Resistance
What task(s) in your day brings up the most irritation, dread, or resistance? What thoughts or feelings come with it?
If you imagine your “dream self” doing this task, how do they feel while doing it? What’s different about how they show up?
What does your resistance to this “small” task say about what you believe you deserve, or what you expect from others? Or what you are capable of? What internal voice (or past influence) do you hear when you feel like you “shouldn’t have to” do this? Or that it’s “your job” to do it? Whose original expectations are you reacting to?
Re-framing Your Worth and Care
Do you believe you’re worthy of a peaceful, well-kept home? Why or why not? Do you believe you’re worthy of the time and effort it takes to properly care for your body?
How do you treat your environment when you feel worthy and well-supported? When you imagine yourself as a deeply cared-for person, what does your daily life look like?
What’s one way you could show yourself love through action today?
Gratitude Expansion
Name 5 things in your daily life that would be considered luxuries to someone else.
What “invisible labor” do you do regularly that keeps your home/life running? Can you honor yourself for those things?
Think of of a time when you longed for something you now have, and don’t often think about. Family, Income, Skills, Friends, ect.
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Affirmations: For Worthiness & Self-Care
I am worthy of a life that feels peaceful, supported, and nourished. My care is a reflection of my love—not a measure of my value.
I release guilt about what I can or can’t get done today. I honor my capacity. My home does not need to be perfect to be sacred.
I am allowed to grow, learn, and improve without shame.
For Embodying Gratitude
I am grateful for the little things that hold my life together.
I choose to slow down and notice what I have.
My gratitude is a bridge to joy.
I see beauty in the ordinary.
I don’t need more to feel whole—I need presence.
For Releasing Limiting Beliefs
I release the belief that I must suffer to be valuable.
I let go of the story that I am the only one who cares.
I am not alone in this—I invite ease and support into my life.
Every small act of care ripples outward. It matters.
I am not behind. I am becoming.
Bridger Concepts
These are some things I rephrase when they come up in my auto feedback loop that has shifted my mindset to a more self care and self understanding perspective. To do list--Get to do list
Should do--get to do
I don’t have time for this--I will better prioritize this into my time later I can’t do it-- I am not yet sure where to start
This isn’t fair-- It’s ok to ask for more help or It’s ok to ask someone else for help It’s too much-- I am exploring what where to focus my energy
I am not enough-- I am expanding my capacity.
This isn’t how its supposed to be--Maybe there is more I am not yet understanding
Remember, you are not rephrasing your auto feedback loop because you are WRONG about the way you think or what you are expecting. You rephrase these things to allow yourself to open to new possibilities.. not to demand better of yourself. Always approach these things with curiosity.
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The Lucky Self Embodiment Practice
Why This Practice Matters:
This practice is like a gratitude exercise on steroids—with a twist of self-awareness and imagination. By choosing to embody your “dream life” during small daily care tasks you normally dislike, you will naturally trigger emotional blocks, limiting beliefs, and internal narratives that hold you back from living in alignment with your highest potential.
You’ll likely encounter resistance. That’s the point.
When you pretend to be the luckiest person in the world while washing the dishes or taking out the trash, your subconscious may react:
“This is dumb.”
“I have better things to do.”
“Why am I the only one doing this?”
Let it all come up. Let the feelings rise.
Then gently bridge them with:
“...and that’s okay.”
Bring your awareness back to the version of you who sees this task as sacred. Who knows that even this moment is worthy of reverence.
A Shift in Perspective
Not long ago, I lived through the hardest year of my life. A tower moment to require no more further tower moments in life(or that is what I am choosing to believe lol) I had a life changing perspective shift that has lead to a realization:
The dishes.
The food that dirtied them.
The family that gathered to eat it.
The strength I had back in my body that let me stand at the sink.
The sink itself.
The warm water. The soap.
Omg...the dishwasher.
It all became a sacred gift. One that I can’t truly capture in this little online course for you.
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I realized most of us are disconnected from just how much we already have. I most certainly was. Even though I had a routine gratitude practice, I completely took most of what I had for granted. Nothing like being pregnant and bending over a 5 gallon bucket of water to wash your family dishes to make you appreciate properly working running water. Appreciate how much better warm water cleans food off dishes.. particularly cheese.
We look at celebrities and think they’re the ones who are out of touch. With their summer homes, their incomes, their luxuries. But the truth is we all are wildly out of touch with the amazing things we have available to us.
Someone, somewhere, would give everything to have even the parts of your life you forget to notice. Or the parts you resent.
Here I sit once again having consistent access to the internet, and sometimes I catch myself being annoyed it’s running slowly.
Then I laugh.
I laugh because; I am sitting on my comfortable bed. With my on demand internet and water and heat. And I remember to slow down and marvel at all these gifts in my life. I vowed to never complain about laundry again, because I, once again, have 24 hr access to a wonderful washer and dryer... in my home. I love my internet. Even if its slow.
It’r truly a marvelous gift to be able to re-pick how to build my life from the ground up.
Building your life again from scratch is one way to re-frame what being grateful really feels like... what it really does for your life. But I also do not wish my experience on you. So instead, here is a practice that will set you on a path of embodying the same level of gratitude... but skipping over the traumatic life experiences. Just, believe me...Romanticize your life. It, and you, deserve to.
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Why It Works
When you slow down and romanticize your day, you reconnect with the privilege of the present. Gratitude journaling is a beautiful daily habit—but this is about embodying it into your existence.
Slowing down in the moment, especially during a task you dread, rewires your emotional body. It tunes you to the energetic frequency of gratitude. It reprograms your auto feedback loop. And when you match the frequency of true gratitude—even briefly—your nervous system and brain chemistry shift. Try This:
Step 1: Choose a Dreaded Task
Pick one thing you do (or should do) every day that you usually dislike. Something that ultimately benefits your life, even if it doesn’t feel like it in the moment. Examples:
Washing dishes
Picking up dog poop
Making dinner
Folding laundry
Showering
Step 2: Pretend You're in a Movie
Imagine you’re being filmed for a heartfelt scene. You are the main character. You just got a second chance at life and are soaking up every moment.
Yes, it might feel silly. That’s part of the magic.
Step 3: Act It Out With Ceremonial Level Grace
For the next 10 times minimum, treat each step of the activity like it’s a gift. Feel the warm water on your hands.
Inhale the scent of your soap.
Notice the sound, the textures, the motions.
Place each item with care, like it’s precious and irreplaceable.
Step 4: Breathe and Feel
Let gratitude swell in your body. Even if just for a second.
Let yourself feel lucky.
Lucky to be here. Lucky to be doing this.
Final Note:
It’s okay if you don’t feel it right away. You might feel more embarrassed than grateful at first.That’s normal.That’s why we practice. The goal isn’t perfection. The goal is presence. To shift just a little closer to the dream version of you—the one who knows how sacred this life really is.
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Affirmation Basics
How to make them ACTUALLY do something for you.
by Lizzie Berry
@energy.by.lizzie
Introduction
Welcome! This process is not about faking positivity — it's about noticing what makes certain affirmations hard to believe and giving yourself the chance to rewire those thoughts. This process helps you feel safe enough to face your ego, honor your emotions, and build a more empowered narrative.
If affirmations don't work for you yet, you're not alone. It works for some right off the bat... but that's more of a rarity than the standard quo. Many find they have a little bit of work uncovering the energy of belief that is leading to the dysfunction with the affirmation, before it does its thing like most manifestation coaches preach. Like trying to type a request on a sticky keyboard, the message gets a little lost and potentially misunderstood(from our belief systems. This is why I have set up this practice to teach you how to find out which keys are stuck on your keyboard before we keep hitting send.
Because the truth is; you are worthy, you are loved, you are capable, you are beautiful, and you are doing a good job. I am so sorry if anyone has made you feel otherwise. As the cheesy saying goes, everyone is uniquely special. Everyone has their individual role to play equally as important as the next. Working on your personal and spiritual growth does not increase your value or make you better, it shows you that you were valuable the whole time, and so was the asshole that cut you off this morning.
The standard use of affirmations is to repeat the word or phrase as often as you can until you believe it and it manifests into your world. In this practice, we will use the idea of the affirmation as one of many ways to shine a light on any emotion/loop/belief that is disrupting your ability to live out and enjoy life in any manner you wish.
Bridger Affirmations
Sometimes, affirmations feel empowering and expansive. Other times, they spark discomfort, guilt, or even shame. That’s because affirmations are not the quick fix that social media often portrays them as—they are mirrors. They reflect back to us where our beliefs are out of alignment with our authentic selves. They can help us jump from self-judgment straight into self-love, no matter where you are on this spectrum.
My first attempt at affirmations came from trying to get over my body image issues. I told myself things like, “I am beautiful,” and “I love my body.” No matter how many times I said it, or sang it, those words triggered waves of shame and discomfort. Every failed diet, every moment of stress eating, every "lack of discipline" I believed I had—all of it rose to the surface. I wasn’t affirming; I was poking an emotional bruise. So I stopped. I tried to just not acknowledge it.
Then I stumbled across body neutrality. Something about the shift in tone—from “love your body” to “accept your body”—felt different. It was gentler. More tolerable. I was kind of half way there already by accepting my fate of never loving the way I looked.
I said things like:
- “These are my arms. They carry things for me.”
- “This is my belly. She holds my organs, the jigglyness helps.”
- “I have three chins when I move like this, but that’s alright.”
- “I have more to offer than to be aesthetically pleasing to other people.”
- “If people don’ t like the way I look, they don’t have to look at me.”
- “I can love my body even if she looks different than I expected her to.”
- “I love to feed my body good food.”
- “I love the way my body feels when I move her.”
It felt really awkward and strange, but the way I was describing my body didn't feel like I was being delusional, so it was far more tolerable. I could sit with it. And over time, something shifted. Eventually, it no longer felt awkward, I no longer saw my “jigglyness” or any roll I had as proof of my failed attempts at being “healthy”. They were just a part of what my body looked like when I saw my reflection. Eventually, I did learn to love my body—but only after I accepted it. So when I turned inward to love my inner self, I started by accepting her, exactly as she is to the best of my ability. Any way that I found myself resisting accepting myself, I used a bridger affirmation to get me at least in the right direction.
Practice One: Simple
1. Say the selected affirmation out loud. From above or any phrase you want to embody or explore.
2. Notice your body’s response and any internal thoughts. Do these thoughts or physical responses happen often? Did you know that was how it was going to feel?
3. Write down what you experience. Details can be helpful for long term pattern recognition.
4. Repeat, but imagine saying them to a stranger. Does this change or intensify your reaction?
5. Again, record how that feels — emotionally and physically. It's ok if you can’t yet identify everything involved or where this reaction stems from. That will naturally come as you keep working with your automatic feedback loop, ESPECIALLY IF YOU DOCUMENT IT!
Body Scan
Basics in Connecting Back to Your Body
by Lizzie Berry • @energy.by.lizzie
Body Emotion Chart
Emotions being stored in the body is not a new concept. However, I personally didn’t like any of the body emotion charts I was able to find online or in any of the books I read. When I set out to make my own, it didn’t take me long to realize that I didn’t like any of the ones online because, truly, each persons body is so different. Each persons personal interpretations and emotional/energetic filing system was so unique that as I added the many different emotions I found each place.... My little chart became several pages long with no end in sight.
HEAD
Daily existence, thought pattern, self expression.
Scalp/Hair: repeating thoughts, worries, blocks that are surfacing.
Base of skull: Subconscious patterns, unacknowledged thoughts/feelings.
Forehead: Difficulty making decisions, identity, overthinking.
Face: sense of self, connection mind and body.
Eyes: Perception, clarity what we are seeing/refusing to see.
Ears: Receiving feedback, what we are hearing/refusing to hear.
Mouth: Communication, our expressions, both expressed and suppressed.
Teeth: life decisions, strength in self worth, coping with change.
Nose: intuition, sensing and understanding the energy around you.
Cheeks: surface emotions you feel frequently or in that moment.
Eyebrows: Patterns of emotional reaction, deeper emotional imprint.
Jaw: the emotions that you do not express, often even to yourself.
Neck: ideas, realities, stress, worry, anxiety, stubbornness; emotions you are actively trying to repress.
SHOULDERS
Responsibility.
Shoulder blade: Hidden responsibility or emotional burden.
Shoulder top: self imposed/accepted responsibility and expectation.
Anterior shoulders: fear of others not upholding their responsibility to you.
ARMS
Action, outreach, connection.
Upper arms: Capacity for self-support, inner strength.
Elbows: boundaries, balancing others needs with your own.
Lower arms: Capacity to care for others.
Wrists: adaptability and control, self discipline.
Hands: Interact and manifest things into the physical world.
Fingers: unnoticed detail emotions related to hands.
Palm: Giving/receiving energetically, sensing subtleties.
LEGS
Progress, life path.
Upper hamstrings: unresolved emotional weight carried from the past.
Behind the knee: vulnerability, emotional openness.
Calves: Resistance to change, carrying stress forward.
Quads: deep emotional memory, generational trauma, emotional armor.
Knees: feeling stable in maintaining who/where you are.
Ankles: feeling stable in moving forward in life, controlling life changes.
Feet/Toes: things you're leaving behind in order to move forward.
Overview: Body Scan
The body scan can be a powerful tool for beginners and experts alike. In today’s busy world, it’s easy to unknowingly pull our awareness out of our bodies and into the external world. Over time, this can cause us to live energetically outside ourselves—disengaged from our physical experience.
This disconnection can stem from constantly doing too much or not being able to tolerate the discomfort in the body, sometimes this even leads to dissociation. The “simple” act of re-engaging with the body is often easier than realizing we’ve been disconnected—sometimes for decades.
Final Notes
Create a safe space for this work—for yourself and others. Big emotions can’t be healed by trying to control or contain them. Be vulnerable. Your intuition speaks in symbols. Despite all the tools I’ve given you, the most powerful lesson is learning to understand without needing to define. And sometimes, that means letting go of what doesn’t yet make sense.
LizziesVisualizationTechniques 2023
Introduction: Seeing with Your Energy
Energetic Sight refers to the natural ability(that I promise you have) to perceive, interact with, and interpret your inner world. This can be done through; visualizations, awareness of feelings, and interpreting subtle impressions of recognized patterns. This guide is intended to teach you the basics on how to use visualizations in order to understand what our body, subconscious and energy is trying to tell us. In order to learn this method of visualizations, you will have to practice trusting your imagination and inner senses, don’t worry we will talk about that too.
As you advance, you can adapt what you learn from this guide to; uncover emotional patterns, clear energetic loops and emotions, balance chakras, step more fully into your authentic self and about an infinite other uses. All imagery that arises in your inner world is valid—it is a reflection of your subconscious and soul wisdom. It’s meant for you to interpret, yours and my interpretations will not always be the same. This is why learning to move through your own visualization can be more powerful than following a preset one.
The reason I highly encourage you to start(Ok I basically insist) with the deconstruction process is because in order to clear out this energy that you have been storing, you have to be willing to look at it. You have to be able and willing to look at yourself, your opinions, your feelings, your facts… look at all of that and be open to wondering if maybe you were actually wrong. You have to be able to face your worst enemy(energetically speaking) and be aware and compassionate with the fact that they too were just doing the best that they could with what they knew and what they had at the time.
This is difficult because truly no one can help you. Because they can only show you what they themselves have uncovered through the lens of what they have not yet uncovered. So you limit yourself by the emotional capacity and understanding of your teacher.
This is why before I teach you how to feel what your chakras feel like, or how to talk with the energy world with a pendulum, I want you to question everything you hear including what I say. So when I tell you to imagine your chakra as a fishbowl but you imagine it as a lava lamp, I don't want you to wonder if there is something wrong with that or try to make it a fishbowl. Your chakra is a lava lamp and I think that is really cool. A lot of the rest of the visualization may also need to be adapted, but if you stay creative and open, then your subconscious will give you exactly what adaptation you need every time.
I think it's important that you learn how to adapt it automatically on your own. This will expand your experience and your level of success tremendously.
Part 1: Preparing the Inner Lens
Creating a Foundation
Begin by grounding your body, breathing deeply, and imagining a space within where you can observe your internal experience. The Body Scan is an excellent place to start to ground and bring awareness back into yourself. You can also imagine tree roots growing from your body into the ground, rooting your connection with the earth. Know that all symbolic visuals—whether they appear strange, silly, beautiful, or uncomfortable—are simply reflections of what your energy wants you to see.
Tools to Start With
A journal or voice note app to capture what you experience and your current interpretations.
A curious mindset—let go of needing it to be “right” or “real”. Just allow it to flow. Willingness to feel your emotions as you explore. Facing the energy that previously felt to big or scary or embarrassing to feel before… will feel just that big or scary or embarrassing to feel now. But if you are willing to go through the moment it needs from you, you can let it go.
Set your intention.
!!!!! Always purposefully hold the intention of doing what is in your highest comfort, good and potential. This ensures we don’t “mess” anything up. I don't say this to stress you out. Anything you did “mess up” probably wasn’t really a mess up and could be fixed. However, to prevent the possibility entirely, you can simply state your intention and the beginning and/or the end. Holding this intention does not allow you to do anything that would disrupt or cause further blockages. If you misunderstood the assignment and were trying to do, say the opposite of what the visualization called for, it simply won’t work.
A quick and very important note; you do not have to VISUALLY see your visualization. I know that sounds weird but depending on how your brain “pictures” things, your energetic lens, and emotions such as embarrassment may hold you back, you might experience a visualization differently than SEEING it.
If you do have a natural knack for seeing energy, you might just see it with little to know effort or prompting.
If you have a natural knack for just knowing something about energy, anything you picture might be guided by a feeling of knowing with or just before the image. If you have a natural knack for hearing energy, you may hear instructions or descriptions either audibly or somewhat in your head. You may also hear the energy when it shifts. Like a pop, or a sizzle.
A visualization is much like a journal prompt. It's intended to get you thinking about something but you are supposed to let yourself take it wherever you take it. If you find you take it completely off topic it is good to allow it, and come back later to try and follow the original topic again later. Sometimes the gold is in the details so be sure to ponder anything you are opting to leave out as possibly involved. The trickiest part of deciphering what something represents is moving your ego out of the way. Your ego may only be trying to protect you, but they are so good at deflecting your attention to something you are reading that you want to hear. If I am unsure what something is supposed to represent, I always like to take it from the perspective of what would my 8 year old self think this meant? I do this because back then her ego was much smaller AND because much of our personal symbolism is made up of our past experiences(particularly the foundation of our belief systems). Cliches nursery rhymes, things people told us, stories we read. That time we screamed when the tiger scared us at the zoo and now that's what we think of when we see a picture of a tiger in a book. All of these things come together in your subconscious as a personal dictionary, your intuition highest self and anyone else you allow to guide you can use to communicate with you.
You don't need to keep a running log of what each symbol means to you because it can and probably will change over time. Looking up what meaning other people have assigned an object or concept can be very helpful, often you will feel a pull or a tug and you will know which one is your definition
If you were looking up what the symbolism of a hammer might be you could try; dream meaning of hammer, symbolic meaning of hammer, spiritual meaning of hammer, and sometimes even biblical meaning of hammer. Often different websites or different phrased questions will all say about the same answer but they usually are a little different. Unless you feel so inclined you do not need to read pages and pages of possible meanings. Honestly your answer will probably be in the first 4 things you read.
Part 2: Interpreting the Language of Energy
Symbolism Is Personal
While some imagery holds common meanings, the most important thing is what it means to you. You may see a locked door and feel sadness and another person might feel isolated, or a dusty attic and feel forgotten potential and another is reminded of their deep secrets. Trust what arises, usually the first definition that comes to mind is accurate. This is because you already know what your energy is trying to show you, you just have to get out of your own way in order to see it.
Asking for Clarity
You can interact with your vision. Ask it questions. For example:
“What’s behind this wall?”
“What does this object represent?”
“Can this area be healed or changed?”
“What emotion is this connected to?”
“Is this connected to a person?”
“Is this connected to an aspect of myself?”
“Is this connected to a period of time?”
“Is this visualization helping me grow or clear?’
“Is there something I am not understanding here?”
“Is there more to explore here?”
The Feedback Loop
Visualizations often reflect our inner “feedback loop”—the automatic stories, fears, or responses we carry(more information in the Journal Basics document). These might appear in your visualization as repeating symbols, dead ends, a looped rope/chain, ferris wheel or chaotic energy. Simply noticing them is the first step to shifting them.
Part 3: The Flow of Emotion
Emotional Storage in the Body
Energy moves through your body through many different systems that automatically operate based on your belief systems and existing physical or energetic blockages. When an energy enters or arises in the body and we do not feel it in its entirety, it can often settle in different areas depending on what you’re experiencing and your associations.
For example:
Shoulders may carry burdens or responsibility
The throat may hold things you wish you could say
The stomach may reveal anxiety or power struggles
Each part of the body and even each individual cell, vibrates at a unique frequency. A healthy kidney cell, for instance, vibrates differently than a stressed or emotionally heavy one. When you store an emotion, it can alter the frequency of the entire area and invite neighboring cells to copy the same vibration. In this way, emotional congestion can cascade into physical discomfort or dis-ease. When you clear the emotion, you remove the original signal—giving your body the space to return to balance.
Clearing Techniques
Use your imagination to:
Sweep away old energy
Utilize your own symbolism (fire to burn it, flush it down the toilet, wash it) Replace darkness with light, congestion with space
Offer healing light, sound, or frequency to specific areas
Speak with a younger version or different aspect of self
Clear out outdated information, beliefs and emotions through the Earth Star chakra
You don’t have to force change. Sometimes it’s enough to sit with what’s there for a moment, other times there might just be more you are not noticing or understanding yet.
Visualization Example: Mental and Emotional World Restoration
This example helps you view your emotional or mental well-being as a symbolic environment. It can help you identify what needs healing or support.
1)Enter the Scene: Close your eyes, breathe deeply, and ask your energy to show you your emotional or mental landscape.
What do you see? A garden, a stormy sky, a cluttered house, a dry desert, a bustling city? Does it look like you shrunk down and went into your body? 2)Observe the Details:
What’s the over all tone of what is happening? Is it Stormy or bright, is it messy, or too empty? How does looking at it make you feel?
Is anything broken, blocked, or missing?
Are there any creatures, structures, or people?
3)Ask the Space:
“What part of me does this represent?”
“What feedback loop(s) is this connected to?
“What emotion is held here?”
“What does this area need from me?”
4)Interact With the Space:
Repair a broken window, open a closed door, clean up debris.
Plant flowers where it feels barren, add sunlight, release trapped wind.
Invite in healing, love, comfort, laughter, safety, or a color you feel drawn to. Speak with the people or creatures you find.
5)Invite Allies:
You might call in a version of your inner child, a wise being, or your highest self to walk with you.
Ask them what they see or how they feel about the space.
6)Watch for Shifts:
Do things brighten, move, or become peaceful?
Did the action you did seem to “hold”?
If not, ask: “What’s blocking this from changing?” or “What still needs to be witnessed?” “What do I still need to understand?” You can also try a different symbolic method to solve the problem i.e. get a jackhammer instead of a sledgehammer. Try getting rid of it instead of fixing it, ask “does this need to be healed, fixed, replaced, balanced or cleared?” Sometimes we can be surprised by what we actually need.
7)End Gently:
When you feel complete or begin to lose focus, thank the space and return slowly by breathing deeper into your body and then open your eyes.
Journal what you saw or felt, even if it seemed random. Details matter and remember you can look up what other people have found their symbology to be to see if it resonates with you.
Reminder: The scene may shift over time. Your inner world reflects your current state, and every small action you take here matters energetically.
GETTING NOTHING so far?
If you struggle to see a scene in your mind's eye, try your other senses. Can you hear anything, feel anything?
If still nothing, try building or painting one. What did you feel called/inspired to create that feels like what it feels like to exist in your head? Then follow through with the previous questions, how would you like to make it a more pleasant place for your inner self to be?
Part 4: Energy Systems and Inner LandscapesThere may be a theme to the system as a whole or each one could be different
For example; each chakra can appear in unique ways:
The Root as tangled roots or solid earth
The Heart as a cracked wall or radiant green light
The Throat as a clogged pipe or open blue sky
Or
They could each appear in a similar format. For example:
Glass bowl filled with the same or different light
A ball of their associated colors light
Their associated symbol
All appear as a scene representing the emotion ready to clear from each area
You might “see” them with color, sensation, emotion, or symbolic structure. Balancing and Healing
Invite each chakra(or other system/body part) to show you what it needs. You may: Sweep out debris
Repair any structures
Strengthen boundaries
Fill with new light
Ask what belief or wound is blocking the flow
Literally whatever comes to mind
Part 5: Cellular Visualization for Healing
Frequency and Cellular Health
Each part of the body vibrates at a unique and specific frequency. A kidney cell, for example, vibrates to the frequency of a healthy kidney cell. The aura of that cell reflects its wellness, which means if one is “sick”, the others around it will start vibing to a similar frequency. When surrounding cells begin to match the frequency of damaged or emotionally heavy cells, they can start to gain more energy as they group up—creating energetic stagnation and often eventually physical symptoms.
Emotions stored in the body influence the frequencies of everything from your outer world experience to the health of the tiniest cell in your body. Clearing emotional stagnation, stress or imbalances helps restore each cell’s ability to self-regulate to its authentic frequency..
Guided Visualization Example: Healing on a Cellular Level To aid visual creativity and pull you out of a “whats real” way of thinking I like to encourage you to let your inner world play out like a cartoon or animated movie if that’s what comes naturally—think Osmosis Jones style.
Begin by entering the area of your body that needs healing.
Ask: What do I see? What is happening?
Perhaps it looks like a warzone, a flooded building, or a pop-up medical tent full of overworked cells.
If cells are in crisis, ask yourself what they look like they need:
Put out fires.
Clear debris.
Free any trapped or suffering cells.
Protect from attackers.
Offer medical aid
Offer supplies(food, medicine, light)
A hug(never never underestimate the power of hugs in your visualizations :) )
Next, locate a cell and ask, “Who’s in charge here?” When you find the lead cell, give them a glowing orb of healing frequency—maybe it’s purple lightning or golden plasma. Tell them it’s the exact frequency they need.
Watch them connect with the energy(stick their hand in it, pour it on themselves, eat it). As their color starts to match the orb, watch them run around applying it to others. The whole area begins to transform—damaged cells revive and organize, the environment clears, the space becomes vibrant again. All with a subtle glow of your healing light.
Troubleshooting Visualization Blocks
Affirmations for unblocking energy and beliefs relating to early energy and visualization work:
I am capable and deserve to write my own life.
I am capable and deserve to make changes in my life.
I am capable of making the best decisions for myself.
I deserve to make decisions for myself.
I am capable and deserve to heal my body.
I am capable and deserve to understand what is happening in my physical body. I am capable and deserve to understand what is happening in my energy body. I am safe to relax into my body and allow my energy to guide me with what I need to do.
I am safe to make changes in my body.
I am capable of making changes in my body.
I am capable of knowing what is happening.
I am capable of advancing my ability to be aware of my body and heal it. I am capable of creating a safe and loving environment for my body to heal.
Work through any and all of the affirmations that catch your eye or look stupid to you at this moment. Afterwards if you feel it is relevant you can take it to either the emotion or the frequency chart.
If you get stuck, ask yourself:
Was it hard to see the space? (try your other senses or manually creating it) Was the healing energy hard to imagine? Or did it not stick? Was it not accepted by the leader?
Did it feel like it wasn’t “working”?
Did this cause any emotions to come up? (fear, doubt, apathy)
If something doesn’t stick, that’s okay. Try adjusting the method: Can you pour the healing into a pool and let cells bathe in it?
Would it help to speak to the cells?
Do they need reinforcements, nourishment, or a creative solution?
Keep it playful and follow what comes to mind. Even if it feels silly, your energy system responds best when you allow the imagination to flow.
Sometimes visual changes don’t hold, they can appear to unwind, reverse, get stuck on repeat or even fall apart. This is a sign there is something more or different to do.
When to Pause and Return Later
If you’re too tired or overwhelmed to hold the visualization:
Take a break. Move your body, create, eat, or journal.
Come back later or ask for help from a Mentor, Spirit Guide or someone on your Inner council to come in and help.
Creative visualization is a skill that deepens with time. Let it evolve. Watch for moments you shame, guilt or judge yourself, these make excellent moments to pause and reflect on our feedback loops.
Part 6: Mapping Influence and Alignment
More information on this topic is coming soon. There is too much (mostly off topic) information to add it all in here, but if you are connecting well with visualizations this is an area of the mind worth exploring. As long as you always keep good intentions for your highest comfort, good and potential(state it at the beginning and end if you are nervous) you can explore and see what works.
The Command Center
Often found in or near the Casual Chakra, this is where you observe and operate internal programming, beliefs, and systems. It might appear as a big building, control panel, library, or cockpit. Here you can:
Observe limiting beliefs and outdated information
Notice repeated emotional loops
Locate stored energy
Adjust automatic energetic functions and systems
Adjust automatic physical functions and systems
Clean up your mental state
Learn about yourself
Learn about your past lives
So so much more.
The Inner Council
Your Inner Council is made up of the voices of peoples opinions you find important, real or “imaginary”.
It may include:
Parents, siblings, teachers
Idols, religious leaders, characters of books
Past or outdated versions of self
Guides, soul-aligned versions of yourself (eventually)
As you evolve, your council can too. Invite in voices that serve your highest truth. You may:
Notice who is speaking in a moment of fear or hesitation vs relaxation or fun Notice who initially instilled or continues to repeat your automatic feedback loops
Replace harsh critics with wise mentors(trying to organize your house? Invite the highest version of your favorite organizing influencer to temporarily join Add multiple versions of yourself that represent what you WANT to bring to your table
Part 7: Your Ongoing Practice
This work is gentle, evolving, and deeply personal. Come back to the same areas often and observe what changes over time. Let yourself be curious, let yourself be surprised.
Integration Ideas:
Journal what you saw and felt
Track how you feel before and after visualizations
Track what changes in the visualization when you repeat it over time Use these inner journeys before decisions, during stress, or as part of regular self-care
Understand that however overwhelmed, broken, behind or lost you feel, you aren't, you're exactly where you are supposed to be. Getting to know yourself again.
Understanding that integrating the things we learn in energy work and changing old patterns can take time, and we deserve grace in the meantime. Even on….especially on days we feel less than rainbows and sunshine.
You don’t have to fix everything. Just being present with what arises begins the shift towards your authentic self and highest potential.
This guide is just the beginning. Your energetic sight is unique and sacred. Trust it, tend to it, and let it show you the way home to yourself.
The Journey of Gary DeanGary Dean is a Bronx native, spiritual guide, and co-founder of the Eye Opener Society. His path toward spiritual enlightenment is deeply rooted in personal evolution, curiosity, and a steadfast commitment to finding truth outside the confines of traditional dogma.Following a Catholic upbringing, Gary found that his expansive questions regarding life and the universe often went unanswered within a structured setting. This disconnect inspired him to forge his own path after high school, embarking on a quest for a more authentic connection to the divine. This journey led him through various philosophies until he found resonance in paganism, where he discovered a profound reverence for Mother Earth and the natural energies that bind us together.Gary’s spiritual evolution took on new depth as he navigated significant personal transformations and mental health challenges. These trials served as a catalyst for growth rather than a hindrance. A transformative Reiki session became a pivot point, revitalizing his spirit and providing a clear sense of purpose. This awakening solidified his dedication to fostering spiritual wellness and helping others find their internal peace.With a long-standing personal meditation practice focused on grounding and self-regulation, Gary began consulting to share these tools. He launched a podcast as a modest way to communicate his insights, which quickly blossomed into a vibrant hub for raw and honest dialogue. The growth of the podcast, enriched by the perspective of his stepdaughter and later his partnership with Lizzie B, birthed the Eye Opener Society movement—an inclusive church dedicated to spiritual freedom.Gary’s philosophy centers on the power of simplicity. He advocates for a spirituality that is stripped of academic complexity and rigid hierarchies, favoring a direct connection with the inner self and the natural world.Key pillars of his guidance include:• Grounding and ancestral earthing techniques• Deepening connections with nature for holistic healing• Cultivating intentional presence and mindfulness• Embracing accessible, barrier-free spiritual practicesGary believes that the pursuit of happiness and healing doesn’t require complex systems; often, the most profound answers are found in the simplest truths. Through the Eye Opener Society, he continues to lead a community focused on authentic empowerment, personal liberation, and a harmonious relationship with the Earth.
Working with your energy/quantum field means… you can't fake it. What you feel, what you think, what you believe is in existence in your field, and attempting to bypass it by defining it by out of resonance or not in your preference, you deny yourself and everyone around you what happens if you were to integrate it into your internal wisdom. You can't fake it, that just files it and processes it as bypass, meaning it WILL come back around. That’s Divine Will :)
Emotional alchemy is too much for this document, it has to be its own so for now let me just lay out some paths to get you thinking.
2 choices in emotional processing
1)Bypass
2)pause/movement, Grace truth/clarity
Denying a truth, denying a perspective, denying or avoiding or preventing anything in yours or another person's experience is bypassing one layer or another. If it has come into your awareness, there is something to witness, process, experience, or otherwise integrate from that awareness. DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO PROCESS IT ALL NOW. Process what you can. The rest will come back around, that wasn't a threat when I said that previously, it was a safety net.
Don't bypass your “bad habits” don't bypass the emotions you “should be over” or that are “holding you back” allow them to exist. Give them the grace they deserve to exist(does not mean you have to tolerate something, things are allowed to exist not in your presence, even if that is just while you are figuring out your feelings/boundaries). All things, even that which inconveniences you deserves to exist and brings its own value to you and the collective, if not now, later.
When you give something in the energy field the grace to exist, everything that needs to come up will and will be processed just as needed so long as you don't insist any of the stories that come up in the time of grace(aka emotional turmoil) is the final truth. What comes up is what is needed to move in order for you to receive the clarity that you seek, it is not in of itself the clarity you seek, now is now the moment to decide how or when to move it. That comes later. When you let ALL of the stories have its moment in the spotlight. When you let it all float in and then back out. When you've burned through all the charges that come up, when you let go of your expectations and assumptions, when you've re-regulated back to your baseline and are ready to go back to your day. It's at this moment you can find the most clarity… And if your clarity involves anything you HAVE to do, anything that is URGENT, anything other people have to be involved with or agree to… anything that still holds pain, discomfort or the desire to move away or prevent something…. That's not clarity and there is more to process. That's ok, these patterns were built in layers, some…. Most… maybe all will come out in layers too.
Document….everything. You'll appreciate it later I promise. Every cringy opinion, every guilty story, every dumb ass move or ignorant thing you're insisting on. It's all beautiful and it's all part of the process and you'll want to remember every magnificent thing you currently would define as a failure or not worth writing down.
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This practice is going to invite you… to probably do everything backwards to what you are originally used to doing. Don't pull things in, allow space. Don't force or push through anything, allow your capacity to guide you. Trust the outcome will be useful and good, stop deciding how things are supposed to go. Understand that you are most productive to your highest self and future when holding still. Authenticity will get you further than anything else. No matter what your authenticity is or how others react or identify you as. Move when you want to, not when you think you need to.
A few “Rules” to understand about how the universe works. The path does rise to meet you, wherever you assume/believe you will land based on your strongest capacity and most coherent perceived story. 3d works slower than everything else and although it feels the most solid, it's not. Trust this is all a part of you, within your control as soon as you stop trying to control it. What you believe becomes patterned truth. Declare something and the quantum field will rearrange itself to test how to make it true for you. Believe good things, believe useful things, let go of fear, let go of the black and white thinking on everything and slowly watch how everything rearranges to slowly make sense. Surviving and thriving can actually look the same to everyone around you in the same way that your life falling apart and falling together can look the same even to yourself if you aren't allowing it to move undefined. Judgement calcifies the story into something malleable for your already existing story. If you are trying to expand your awareness and ability to use truth as “cosmic command” then you have to allow cosmic law to sort it all out. Beliefs should support how the cosmos already want to go, trust that you…. Are the cosmos. The more your beliefs limit outcome/experience/intention the more the shuffle slows or halts.
1)Allow Space. (Pause)
Let go of emotions, attachments to outcomes, stories of who people are or how things are supposed to have gone. Let go of who you are supposed to be, let go of what you hope to accomplish. Let go of even the good stories you KNOW are true. The thing is we aren't meant to hold anything. It's the illusion of creating physical stability that leads us to try and finalize, quantify, and protect what you have, or are building. It's a trick of the mind though because you don't have to hold anything for it to be true, safe and connected to you. It's the holding of anything that is holding you back. If you find yourself to be a bit of a stubborn person congratulations, those are valuable skills to keep your reality and story true to yourself vs melting into the collective accidentally. But, it won't serve you well when you are trying to learn to free flow through your life like the cool cosmic experience of blessings it can be if you just let it all go. Don't let go of your stubbornness, evolve it.
If you don't describe yourself as stubborn, congratulations(if you really aren't stubborn) this will be a much easier step in regards to learning to let go of your control. However, on the flipside I encourage you to practice energetically “standing”. The ability to hold your ideas and opinions as less than solid opens a lot, but you have to know where your floor is. Shame as a floor can be painful. Trust as a floor can only move you forward to what will bring you joy… even if you don't know what that is yet. Don't let go of your free flowing, evolve it.
If you feel like you land somewhere in between… most people probably do.
I think it is very important to note that letting it go can be a layered process that you cannot rush. I talk about it like it's that simple… because it is when you've been on the letting go journey for a while. But in the beginning, it feels like an insult to simply “get over” the life changing things we went through. When I say let go of what is causing you pain, I am not saying to forgive them, I am not saying that it didn't matter, or that you are somehow wrong or ignorant for holding it.
When we live in the automatic pattern of our life, we learn to hold what is important, what leads us to know what we know. We build who we are on who we were and what we learned. I am not saying this is WRONG but… I actually don't think it's right either.
When you lean into the cosmic world AND(very important that its and..) your capacity meets it, none of it holds that pull because it doesn't need to. Things only pull like that to pull you along. When you are consciously moving, it comes in like information, ideas, opportunities, “check points”. When something is triggered it's what you do next that decides whether you let it go and process it into whatever gift it's trying to be or loop it back around to be triggered with this information, idea or opportunity again. Being triggered is not the problem. Quieting the trigger and pretending it doesn't bother you, or staying solely in the frequency you're triggered into without processing.
You don't let things go by deciding they are wrong. You let things go by deciding that perspective could be right, but so is X perspective, and X perspective and X perspective… You don't let things go by deciding they are no longer a part of you, that's detachment. You let things go allowing yourself to feel the trigger AND the bodily feelings you held before the trigger. That is non-attachment. Allow truth to expand, you can't try and force it to change. Allowing more things to be true, more things to be felt at once, allows non attachment to reshuffle you and for you to automatically flow where you more so want to be.
For now, quit repeating affirmations, trying to obtain a certain frequency or outcome. Stop moving. Even a good story…. Even a true story is pushed further from you the tighter you quantumly grasp it(defining, proving, insisting, trying to ensure). Yes, I do say this a lot, and eventually, you'll see how many you are holding that you don't even realize that you are.
2)Honor Capacity.(Find the edges of your structure)
Your capacity is your ability to move(or be still) without fear/shame/emotional clamping or holding. Sacrificing, compromising or going against your morals or ideal participation can shrink your capacity if it doesn't FEEL good. Remember… You can't fake it.
Capacity can be highly linked to your nervous system and fascial system. Not because your capacity is highest when your nervous system is regulated, but because your smallest capacity is revealed when your nervous system is dysregulated. Going beyond your capacity might still yield the results you are looking for, however it is much harder if not impossible to sustain it. If it's not within your capacity to hold it without effort, without fear of losing it… then you will be at constant risk to lose it and it will take great effort to keep it. Build what requires no quantum effort, not because it's easy but because that means it was always meant for you.
Your capacity does not expand by forcing it to feel safe, or over feeding it any certain frequency. Your capacity expands easiest and most effectively by simply allowing it to pop out when it wants…. And HONOR IT. Seriously.. Trying to expand your capacity is the best way to trip it up( I mean for sure you can use that to your advantage) but will get tripped up anyways, you don't have to go looking for it. When it does, give it space to panic while also holding the polar truth that the trip up is just that, your capacity preparing to expand. Allow anxiety and excitement for the future to exist simultaneously while you PAUSE into the next movement not push into it. Allow anger and grief and new beginnings to all exist simultaneously while you pause into the next layer of wisdom that inevitably will hit if you don't insist what truth is in this moment.
Honor your capacity by allowing it to shrink, expand, freak out, freak in, dissolve, amplify… This can be an excellent place of truly giving yourself space to be authentic. Your authentic needs even if they don't make sense are cosmically designed with your heart and your future in mind.
Take a break, do the stupid art project that "isn't productive” , brush your hair, take a nap, go for a run, eat something sweet, cook a hearty meal. Give your body, mind and spirit connection space to shine through by giving your capacity the seat at the table it deserves to tell you how it's doing and what it needs, even if that differs from where you think it should be at, or what you think it needs. Tonight I needed potato chips in ranch. And yes, I do think my soul needed it.
If you feel urgent you might need rest, not inspiration.
If you feel scared you might need community not stability.
If you feel angry you might need understanding and adjusted limits not control.
And if you feel a lot of pressure, you might need a little sweet treat and a hug.
Yes your capacity is you keeping yourself as regulated in the nervous system and fluid in connective tissue as you can… but it's also allowing it space to be dysregulated when it damn well pleases.
3)Trust(Trust the patterns, Pattern Trust.)
Trust the outcome will be useful and good no matter what it looks like from the 3d world, no matter what you feel, no matter what you think you lost or messed up. Trust that if you can't explain how this is working in your favor then there is something good coming that is so big you can't yet see it coming. Over time, you will see this is the inevitable pattern.
Even things perceived in the moment or by other peoples stories as a “bad outcome” that's a straight up lie because bad outcomes don't exist once you move past shame, guilt, control and lack. Failure isn't an option because it simply doesn't exist. It's all for purpose, it's all for evolution, it's all for understanding, it's all to be witnessed and experienced and never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever as a punishment or consequence. If. It. Does. Not. Yet. Seems. To. Be. Good. Then. The Chapter. Is. Not. Over. And. There. Is. More. Moving. In. The. Quantum. Field. Then. You. Can. Understand. I mean it obnoxiously, because I don't want this to be missed. It's important.
I have so much more to say on this one…. But I think… I will choose to live it just this simple for you today. Because it is. Honor your capacity as it builds trust with yourself, your intuition, your path, your story, the quantum field….. Just give space and witness the process, looking back it will be beautiful. If it isn't beautiful the process isn't done. Once pause does its pause thing… You'll WANT to move and it actually will be effortless.
4)Authenticity
Practice slowing down to respond authentically vs automatically responding out of heightened emotions or spiritual superiority. You can't fake what emotional response first came up, and you can't fake what touched your heart, and you can't fake the judgment thought that came in before you dismissed any of this. And you can't fake what you hoped would have happened.
The universe loves your raw messy authenticity. The art you make, the tears you cry, the burnt food, the divine desert, the walk on the sidewalk, the afternoon nap… all is exactly equally sacred as praying or meditating in a temple if you do it from a conscious place of love for self, others and your experience.
Magic happens when you respond consciously and authentically. When you allow others to be authentic(even if they don't seem conscious). Magic happens when you allow it space to happen because you aren't holding on to how something is going to happen, who you insist you are, or how you insist things are supposed to go. Even justifying or explaining why something happened, why you haven't given up, or why you have…. All of these keep you tangled in the manner you previously were. The act of authentically letting go of all of it. Allows all connections to shift. What is meant to be will reconnect in a more authentic way.
Authenticity is not perfection, it's not a spiritual accomplishment, it is just the practice of being you vs judging what you are supposed to be. Maybe you aren't above kicking trash cans, maybe some tables need to be flipped. Maybe you aren't above skipping work. Maybe you're not above letting your car be messy. Maybe when you relax you sometimes say the wrong thing, or don't sit space long with someone's emotion. Maybe nothing will be quite as good as you knew it could have been.
Let it all just be. Let it be until the shame comes and goes and comes again. Let it all be until you authentically want to do something because you WANT to not because you should, or you're trying to prevent something you don't want such as judgment from others or as a way to move the shame. That's the part of authenticity. Whether it's alchemizing or painting, it's just what I want to come up with. Your logical brain is so powerful and useful, but not in this moment.
Let them judge, maybe do things you'd judge yourself for. Be the challenging person that gives them the opportunity to question their preconceived notion about everything out of what they are forcing themselves to be.
Side note on authenticity, capacity, trust…. It is never authentic and it's never in trust and it will usually affect your capacity if you are attempting to move AWAY from something, or FIX anything. Movement is always towards something and everything is already perfectly imperfect.
You can't prevent anything and attempting to do so only holds that into a possible assumed outcome. If you catch it, don't dismiss it, don't change it, honor it as you rewrite it WITHIN your capacity, within your authentic flavor and within trust because you are doing a damn good job, friend.
5)Live from your heart and your Sacral(Be the light, find the light. Probably in that order.)
After you feel good about life, after you have a plan(loosely), you move. And whatever you do(whether according to plan or not) do it with soul in it. And do it with grace. Washing the dishes is like a luxurious event. Drive to work like it's the prettiest scene you've ever laid your eyes on, speak to the cashier like they are a wizard in disguise(like what if they were and you missed out?;) ), Pay your bills like you're grateful to have the services they provide. Give yourself grace when you forget how magnificent you or the people around you are, give grace to those acting less than magnificent, and give others grace to not be evolved as you, give yourself grace for not being as evolved as you thought you were. Give the day grace to be what it is, and give your place the grace to evolve as life happens because when done it love(or not) it's still just always going to be in your favor. I just prefer love as my flavor.
Throughout my journey, I have honestly found that it almost doesn't matter WHAT I do, and it almost doesn't even matter HOW I do it( I mean a little), it's more of WHY I do it. What did I assume would happen? What did I think I could expect? Did I feel like I or anyone else went against my morals(or what I think theirs should be)? Did it make me feel vulnerable like tingly expansive or vulnerable like hide in a hole? And if I wanted to hide in a hole did I let myself and did I feel better after?
Did you notice that all the steps kind of melted into each other and it mostly centered around trust flavored in you being awesome? It's because that's actually the only point that mattered.
Trust that you are awesome. Trust the path will be magnificent. Trust the outcome will be both delicious and nutritious. And it will be.
Yay!